This is a quick shout to folks who are suffering with the latest version of osx breaking all their locally homebrewed (or otherwise installed) applications. This is not the only or best way to install software on your Mac, but it worked for my configuration.
First I rebuilt my critical c++ tools using clang++ and libc++ by modifying brew formulas with the following additional section (c stuff was aok):
Then in any native nodejs modules I had that referenced symbolic libraries I used the following section in bindings.gyp
Examples of customized homebrew formulas to link with libc++.